of nerves, uncertainty and excitement. Sex is no
different. You can't predict what it'll be like, but you
can up the chances it'll be good by thinking about
who, when and how you want it to happen.
If you're reading this, you've decided you're ready
to have sex .
Firstly, what do we mean by 'sex'?
It's confusing, isn't it?
While we think that 'sex' includes oral sex , vaginal
sex and anal sex, here we're going along with what
most people believe – that 'losing your virginity' and
'first time sex' is the first time you have penetrative
sex i.e. vaginal sex.
How will it feel? Will it hurt?
The first time I had sex was kind of weird and
awkward. I didn't feel really turned on – I just
wanted to do it to see what it was like. We had
been together for a few months.
Took a while with him trying to get the condom
on, and then I had to help him to find the right
place to put it in! It hurt at first so I told him to
slow down. Then it started to feel good but he
came quickly and that was it.
I can't say I totally enjoyed it – but I thought,
at least now I've done it, so I know what
everyone's talking about.
Don't expect the first time to be the most amazing
experience of your life.
Almost everybody says the first time wasn't the
best time (by far) or that it was what they expected.
You can't predict what it'll be like, but thinking about
who, when and how you want it to happen can help
make it what you want it to be.
Write down your ideas at Dear Diary: my ideal first
time.
For girls, it's usually a bit uncomfortable or painful
and the chances of coming (having an orgasm)
through penetration are low.
Most women need their clitoris rubbed or stimulated
to come anyway, first time sex or not - penetration
isn't usually enough. Guys, you'll probably come
really quickly.
See What's sex like and other FAQs .
Who's the right person?
It's important you choose somebody you:
can tell how you feel – before, during and after
having sex.
get along really well with, so you can laugh
about anything that happens during the sex.
feel comfortable telling what they can do to make
you feel good.
Take the Quiz: should I sleep with them? to help you
decide.
Legally you're not considered old enough to say
yes to sex until you're 16 , even if you feel ready.
It's completely wrong and illegal for anyone in a
position of power to have a romantic or sexual
relationship with you: teachers, coaches, relatives
or friends' fathers. Talk to a trusted adult in this
situation.This article was compiled by aronice
